Are you prepared for Marriage?

This recent article in the Globe and Mail is a sad description of marriage.

Seems like most spouses (or ex-spouses) interviewed felt they were in a contract not a covenant.

One man: "I had to be the daddy. I had to bring home money. I had to be the husband and I had to be the best friend. I wasn't ready for that."

One Women: "one of the joys of divorce has been rediscovering myself. It is very freeing to be able to start to reclaim who I was and start to nurture that person."

These statements are revealing. Maybe they really didn't expect any of that going in. Do they sound selfish or contractual? (although we don't have much background into how they arrived at feeling this way).

Marriage isn't easy. Know what you're going into. You shouldn't get married to remain exactly as you are. You don't marry someone if you have no desire to support your spouse (and of course be supported).

Most careers demand compromise, yet we fulfill them to certain degrees. Why not for the one we've committed to love until death.

Marriage is wonderful. Know that what you put in you get out. Know that you will be changed through it. Know that you are given the privilege to love and support someone.

The last line of the article... is more positive than the main body of it.

What do you think?